5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term relationships success.

QUESTION #1 : Do we share a common life purpose?

You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in
a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. Fifty percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottom line - and marry someone who wants
the same thing.


QUESTION #2 : Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this
person?

Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust.Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel motionally safe with the person you plan to marry.


QUESTION #3 : Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.


QUESTION #4 : How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.



QUESTION #5 : Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.


In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart!.